Thursday, March 4, 2010

Life Changing Moment

Last sunday I just had the most life changing experience of my life. No, I didn't have a near death experience, No, I didn't experience a good movie or play. I was talking with my mom and she told me that my dad is not my biological father. You can imagine how this news effected me. But really I wasn't hurt, I wasn't mad, I wasn't sad or confused, I just felt like this is really happening. I was shocked yes, and it took a few days to sink in but now I have accepted if for what it is. I know my mom has always loved me and so has my dad. In my eyes my dad will always remain my dad but now I just have a whole other family to love and to love me. After my mom told me, we went upstairs and looked at my biological fathers picture on facebook. He is very handsome and he looks just like me (of course he is handsome if he looks just like me!) ;-) Later that day I got on facebook and typed him the following message...

"Dear Clark,

Hello, We have never met before but I'm pretty sure you know who I am. My mom tells me your my dad. I just wanted to introduce myself and talk to you. I don't know if even want to talk to me or what not, but I just wanted to say hi. I really don't know what else to say, sorry if this is awkward, it is just a little bit of a shock... I hope to hear from you soon.

Tanner Snow "

That was the most awkward note I have ever written. It all seemed like a movie to me, I couldn't believe i was actually happening to me. I would show you the note that Clark wrote back to me but I have not asked his permission so out of respect for him I won't do that. But from his letter he said that he is very glad I decided to contact him and he wants to be a part of my life. I was very thrilled when I heard this because it feels like a hole in my heart that I never knew was there, was finally filled. I never had a loss for a dad because my dad is the greatest, he has always been there for me and always will be, but this new family I am very excited to meet! Clark has 3 kids and a wife. All of them and the rest of the family (Uncles, Aunts, Cousins, Grandparents) all are very excited and very supportive! If you have any questions just ask, I don't know if I have covered everything but I have to go, thanks for taking to time to read about my life! ;-) LOVE YOU ALL!!


lexa Jean said...

Tanner! I'd love to invite you! is it going to be the email I have for you? hmmm maybe send me an e-mail at and i'll add you! (I have to admit... mine's kinda boring! but I'd love to have some more friends :D)

Can I just say you really do amaze me! I'm not sure I could have taken that the way you did! But i'm really glad you've been able to find peace through it! You'll have to keep us updated on what happens!! I wish you the best! :)

Chan! said...

Oh my gosh! Wow... I can't even believe this! That is so insane. But good job for being so positive about it!
Wow... that is such a shocking story!

Dannette & Mark said...
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Dannette & Mark said...

Love ya Tanner!

Sheraya said...

Tanner, I'm adopted as well. My story is a bit different, but if you ever need to bounce of thoughts or feelings, I'm here for you.